Women, Vera is going to teach us about men. Listen closely.

I know that this was not addressed to me, but I could not let this response from Vera to Maragon go without addressing a few of the things that Vera said in her response. My responses are in red.




It is an interesting thing going from single life to married life. You will learn a whole lot of things you never knew about men just by living with one. They think so differently than we do. Us girls will often say, "It's a guy thing." Because men just do not think like girls do. You have to laugh about it or you'd go bonkers.

It is true. They will drive around in circles for hours before they will stop and ask for directions. :-) My husband asks me for directions though but never a gas station attendant etc. It's a guy thing. :-)

(No, Vera, that isn’t a ‘guy thing’. It’s a thing that certain humans do that certain other humans do not do. I have known guys that do this and guys that just hop out and ask. I’ve known women that refuse to ask for directions and women that don’t. Sorry, but stereotyping an entire gender based on the actions of your hubby is just yet another example of your inability to think critically.)


And there is no place where this divergence is more evident than in the area of romance.

For example, you said this

If my fiance notes that another woman is attractive it doesn't mean that he would sooner marry her or that he finds me less attractive.

See, this isn't what a guy thinks when he notices that a woman is attractive and trust me, it has zero minus minus to do with marriage. (Now she knows what all men think when they see an attractive woman.) Guys simply don't think like that. (There goes that generalization again!) The absolute last thing on their minds at that moment is responsibility, which is what a guy perceives in marriage. (Trust me Vera, not all men see marriage as a responsibility and not all women are thinking about responsibility when they think about sex.) That might be what a girl thinks because we girls want to be married. (No, Vera, not all women want to be married.) We want to be princess for a day. (No, Vera. Wrong again.)We love the story of Cinderella. (I’ve never liked that story. Am I not female? )We want to be in love.(No, Vera, not all women want to be in love.) Above all, we want a companion we can talk to. (Vera, I’ve known women who did not want a companion to talk to. As a matter of fact a relationship was the last thing in life they wanted. I guess they weren’t really women.)

What goes through a man's mind in a matter of minutes in terms of lust would make you want to throw up at times because it is so perverse and they could be sitting there nonchalantly in a business suit just staring at you, be handsome, ugly, or whatever. (Vera, you have serious sexual issues. They very idea that the thoughts of a man about sex would make a woman throw up is a very extreme reaction to have to the thoughts of another person.) It is so unnoticeable on our end because we simply don't think like that. (WE don’t? Yes, Vera, women never think about kinky sex, or sex at all for that matter. We think about sewing and knitting and baking little heart shaped cookies and that’s it. ) It has nothing to do with anything other than that this particular person allows themselves to go through the whole thing in their minds. (It has to do with being human, Vera.)We had a discussion about this early on on this list and most of the atheist men confessed that they see no problem with lust. (And? Was that a complete thought?)

Some men, such as my husband, are mentally disciplined and simply don't allow this to get off the ground in their minds. (LOL !! Yeah, I’m sure your husband never, ever thinks of sex, Vera. Then again, if he’s married to you, it might be such a painful thought that he’d rather not think it.) But other men that look at porn on the Internet, enjoy going through the entire act in their minds apparently. I totally cannot relate at all. (There are women who look at porn too, Vera. And couples. We know you can’t comprehend it. You are obsessed with sex, Vera. Obsessed with telling others how they feel about sex, what they think about sex, what they should do about sex. We understand you don’t comprehend much at all.)

That is their draw to marriage over and above almost anything else. (Yes, Vera. All men just want to get married so they can fuck. It’s just that simple. Because you said so.)But technically, many men today don't have to get married to get what they want because plenty of girls are giving it away free of charge. (So women should be charging??? Vera, you are a kinky minx under all that religion crap aren’t you?)

Like you said, they could line up a dozen of the handsomest men on the planet (and yes of course it is normal to notice a person's beauty) but you and I wouldn't think about hoppin' in the bed with them. That wouldn't cross our minds. What we would do is fantasize about being in love with them and being married to them and not involving sex whatsoever. (Not involving sex whatsoever. Must. Never. Think. Of. SEX!!! EVER!!!) I don't do that. Before I was a Christian, those are the things that would go through my mind about a handsome guy. (But Da Jebus took away all those dirty little thoughts about those nasty, dirty, filthy naughty bits!)

This phenomenon is a part of their makeup and chemistry. It is a part of their design and that's why God asks us to dress modestly. (Because god made men to be sex robots, programmed to fuck everything that can't run fast enough to get away.) For some men, they simply need to get a handle on life by repenting and being set free. ( Ohhhhh Vera! You are the LAST one who needs to be telling other they need to get a handle on life!)But others are bombarded with this stuff daily from women who walk around practically undressed. (Oh the agony that you poor men must be going through!!!)They are trying to keep their thoughts pure and the girls aren't making it any easier. (Men are trying to not be the sex robots that god made them into, but us women are just FORCING men to act out !!!)

In all fairness to you, most girls today haven't got a clue.(Uh, Vera….when you get over thinking that a concept like sin is passed on through the human genome, then you can start talking about who has a clue and who doesn’t.) Like I was telling Reynold, the attire of a harlot 4000 years ago was probably showing a shoulder or something. (And as sexually screwed up as you come off sounding, Vera, even an exposed shoulder would probably make you think a woman was forcing a man into being a rapist.)

To be honest, the guys don't understand one bit what it is like to go through 9 months of pregnancy either. How can they? That is the part that girls have to deal with and those things are so contrasting to the guys that we are like separate entities at times trying to communicate and relate. This is why books like Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus were written. (Just because a man can not have the experience of being pregnant does not mean he can understand it, Vera. Can he understand it first hand? No. Is he incapable of understanding it at all? No.)

So it is difficult at times to choose when so many of the pieces of clothing are made to make us show body parts. (Not if you have a brain.) If your fiance were honest, he would tell you that I'm telling you the truth. (So now she’s saying Maragon’s fiancé isn’t honest with her!)

Glad to hear you did well.

I apologize for misjudging you. You are right. A few pics does not tell us everything about a person.
Vera
October 19, 2008 7:46 PM